Body confidence in the bedroom with Pasante

Did you know that 46% of British people have a negative body image? And that 13% are not happy AT ALL with their body? According to a 2019 study by YouGov, this is sadly the reality we now face in the UK. But why do we feel insecure about our bodies? How can this impact our sex lives? And how can we overcome these insecurities?

Why do I feel insecure about my body?

Body insecurities can often stem from mean comments we receive from other people. A lot of the time, we wouldn’t event notice certain aspects of our body if someone didn’t point it out to us. We think because one person has made a negative comment about our body, all people will see us this way. However, that’s not the case at all! Most people are not looking for our ‘flaws’ and it’s important to remember that any mean comments we receive are from people who are trying to feel better about themselves by putting us down, or simply want to get a reaction from us. In any case, just ignore. ✌️

Of course, one of the biggest culprits of causing negative body image is the media. The media dictates what we deem as beautiful, which typically consists of a slim frame for women and a muscular figure for men. Many photos we see on magazine covers and social media are heavily edited, and actors that we see in movies and television shows have been made to look more attractive with makeup and lighting. This can create unrealistic body standards, leading to many people feeling insecure about their ‘normal’ bodies. However, most of what we see in the media is NOT REAL, so don’t stress about it. 😌

How can body insecurities impact my sex life?

Lower body confidence can negatively impact our sex lives; it can lead to low sexual self-esteem, which can lead to low arousal in the bedroom due to embarrassment. How can you be in the moment and fully immerse yourself in your sexual experiences if you are feeling conscious about your body? This low arousal can lead to low sexual desire, which in turn can lead to avoidance of sexual activities altogether. We must avoid this at all costs! But how can we prevent this from happening?

How can I overcome body insecurities in the bedroom?

It can be tough trying to overcome negative body image, but don’t worry, Pasante is here to help! We’ve outlined 4 steps on how to overcome body insecurities in the bedroom below. 👇

Step 1: Focus on all the best parts of your body. Maybe you have an attractive smile, or beautiful eyes? These are the things your partner(s) will focus on in the bedroom, so don’t let your insecurities get you down! Remember, they are sharing this sexual experience with you because they are attracted to you and want to explore your body further.

💡- Here’s a little tip for women: Wearing lingerie can make you feel sexy and boost your confidence in the bedroom. Plus, the lacey patterns look so pretty! What other excuse do you need to treat yourself? 😉

Step 2: Focus on sexual pleasure and being in the moment. What’s the point of having sex (other than for reproductive purposes) if you’re not going to enjoy it? The only things you should be focusing on are your partner(s) and the pleasure that comes with sharing an intimate moment with them. This way you are more likely to experience sexual arousal and fully appreciate the experience.

Why not try our Ribbed Condoms for added pleasure? Or perhaps our Mixed Flavour Condoms to add some spice into the bedroom? 😏

💡- Here’s a little tip for men: Penis size doesn’t matter! What matters is technique, communicating with your partner, and simply enjoying the experience of being intimate with them. Whatever your size, Pasante has something for everyone, so why not give our condoms a try? 🍆

Step 3: Practice Self-Pleasure. There’s no better way to appreciate your body than to practice some self-pleasure… By exploring your body and learning how to make yourself feel good, you will start to appreciate the figure you were given and learn to love your body for what it is. This will not only increase your body confidence but will also help you communicate to your partner(s) what you like and dislike in the bedroom, ultimately enhancing your sex life.

Step 4: Communicate your insecurities. If you’re feeling negatively about your body, you’re not alone! Everyone feels this way sometimes and it’s important to talk about your insecurities so you can begin to let them go. Try speaking to your partner(s), closest friend(s), or anyone else you feel close to about this. You’d be surprised how many people feel the same way, and you’ll probably find that they are also insecure about their own bodies!

So, if you’re suffering with negative body image, give these 4 steps a try and watch your sex life transform into something magical! Remember, everyone’s body is unique and special in its own way. We come in all different shapes and sizes, and we should celebrate our differences, not pit ourselves against each other! If we learn to love our bodies, we will learn to embrace the love we receive during those intimate moments. 🥰